My Husband Ended His Affair But The Other Woman Won’t Accept It: Tips That Might Help
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My Husband Ended His Affair But The Other Woman Won’t Accept It: Tips That Might Help

Many wives dealing with infidelity tell me that they feel that if they could just get their husband to leave or break up with the other woman, they could save their marriage and move on with their lives. Thus, many of them rejoice when their husband finally ends the relationship with the mistress or another woman, thinking that most of her troubles are over. Unfortunately, this is not always the case because sometimes this woman finds it very difficult to let go of her husband or walk away gracefully.

I recently heard from a wife who said, “My husband broke up with the other woman, but she refuses to accept this. And she is determined to destroy our marriage. She constantly sends messages on my Facebook account or emails saying things like Do you know where your husband is? Or he sends me photos of them and says they were taken recently when my husband swears they are old photos. Part of me has some doubts about this but in one of the photos he is wearing shorts that I already he hasn’t, so i know he’s lying about it.he once told my husband that he saw me with another man and texted him to ask if he was sure i wasn’t cheating on him to get back at him. That other man was my boss who I’m not even remotely attracted to and we were having a lunch meeting with some other coworkers there were inappropriate comments about it he even sent me old letters my husband sent him He wrote just to hurt me or make me doubt him. I told people that we are getting a divorce and we even claimed that they were still together. This makes me doubt my husband and makes saving our marriage more difficult. How can I get her out of our lives once and for all because I don’t want to let her further damage my marriage and I want her out of my life.”

This can really turn into a nightmarish situation and it is not that rare, especially when the relationship outside of marriage ends abruptly or without any “closure”. I even sometimes have the mistress or “other woman” contact me on my blog and ask for information on how to get the husband back. And many say that it is very difficult to close the door when one day he was present and enthusiastic and the next day completely committed to his wife with whom he previously claimed to have serious problems. And while I’ve been the wife on the other side of the equation, sometimes I understand the other woman’s difficulty in abruptly changing course, seemingly overnight. But this does not excuse the behavior.

And with that being said, in my opinion, the other woman generally has no real claim on the husband, since he is married to someone else. As painful as it is, the commendable thing to do would be to let it go, no matter how hard it is. In the next article, I’ll offer wives some ideas on how to encourage the other woman to do just that.

Make sure the other woman really understands that your relationship is over, whether or not your marriage survives: Sometimes when you talk to the other woman in this situation, she will state that the husband was not very strong in his determination to stay with his wife. In other words, when he breaks up, he can (at least in his opinion) use words that make it seem like he’s not really sure about his feelings or imply (at least in his mind) that he’s going back to his wife for a while. sense of obligation. He may tell her that he feels he owes it to his children or his wife to do everything possible to keep the family together, and she may think that her body language is telling him that this isn’t really what she wants. he wants.

And frankly, you’ll often see exactly what you want to see. If she thinks that the failure of her marriage means he’ll eventually get back to her, then he could make sure that’s exactly what happens. That is why it is very important that the husband make it clear that the relationship is over no matter what happens with the marriage. So the message shouldn’t be, “I’m ending the affair to try to save my marriage.” Instead, the message should be, “I’m ending the affair because the relationship is wrong, it’s based on cheating, and it’s never going to work for me and there’s nothing to change my mind.”

There is a big difference between the two of you, and making this distinction may encourage her to see that destroying your marriage is not going to save your relationship. And frankly, this message should come from her husband (preferably not face to face) instead of you because she probably won’t believe you anyway.

Make sure the other woman understands that ultimately her antics aren’t going to change things: I certainly understood the wife being extremely upset with the other woman’s behavior. It’s a challenge to save your marriage after an affair, but it’s even more difficult when she won’t leave you alone. That being said, it is important to create a united front. It’s important that he finally comes to realize that his antics really are a waste of time and emotional energy because they don’t really change anything.

Don’t let him see that it bothers you. Don’t talk back and give her the satisfaction of knowing that she is getting to you. Because if you do, this only encourages you to keep doing it. Encourage those mutual friends you’ve been reaching out to to reassure you that the two of you continue to move forward with your marriage, regardless of their attempts to destroy it. Try to force yourself to automatically delete your communications. Please mark the letters “return to sender” and send it back. Block it in any electronic account. All of these things will encourage her to understand that her plan just isn’t going to work. Hopefully, eventually, as she continues to bond with her husband and she continues to see that her behaviors aren’t changing anything for her, she’ll conclude that she’s simply not getting any benefit from her efforts and move on. .

With all of this being said, I know that some women receive or accept this message before others. If she doesn’t take the hint or you feel threatened, don’t hesitate to get the police involved if necessary. Sometimes it takes an authoritative third party to drive the message home.

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