we all have baggage
Who doesn’t have luggage? That’s the only question that comes to mind when I ask a girl out. Well, we all have some kind of baggage from our past. Some of us have done some embarrassing things that we’re not proud of and we definitely don’t want our lovers to be a part of it. It can be anything, like this guy I know, he’s been in relationships with ten different girls and now when he finally found his love, he doesn’t want to share a picture of his past life with his girlfriend for fear of losing her.
To explain it better, this girl I knew was in jail once for a misdemeanor. But that doesn’t mean she’s still the same person. Surely she has to carry this to the last breath of her life.
By the time we hit 20, we’re too young to have baggage. In fact, we shouldn’t worry about our dates as we enter our 20s. I should rather say that the young 20s is the time we start to put it together for the future. But when we enter our 30s, we are full of it. We always tell our friends that if we meet a new girl or guy, he or she is nice but… To fill this out, but we have a lot of explanations, for example, she is beautiful but she had three boyfriends in the past. She’s perfect, but she’s a little old for me.
She’s sexy, but she’s not a virgin.
She’s attractive, but she has a huge butt.
Is it even possible to ignore the person’s past and enjoy the present?
Well, for one thing, it’s not impossible for sure.
Some people accept their past and move on, while others regret it forever. Like this guy I met who set a really good example when I asked him about his breakup, breaking up with her was the worst decision of my life and it took me three months to get over it and move on, but I finally realized how emotionally strong I’ve become over time. It’s just a learning phase where I’ve learned not to feel any difference between happiness and sadness.
This shows that you don’t care about the past, but rather enjoy the burden of it.
Now the question arises, how can we ensure that our past does not affect our present or future? Well, it’s very simple but complex in many ways. The simple way is to get over it and enjoy the present life scenario without any burden from the past. Either that, or you can let your past get in the way of your path to happiness. The ball is always in your court, it’s just that you need to accept and appreciate your past. By the time we start seeing baggage as avoidable as other things, existence itself will die out just like polar bears do these days.
So the trick to a happy life lies in being indifferent to all the baggage you have been carrying all your life. Don’t be ashamed of it, try to be proud. It’s worth it.