Do you know how to persuade a man to commit? Do you push him too hard or try to demand more of him than he is willing to give? Would you like to find a better way to get what he needs out of the relationship without begging? If you are currently struggling to get a man to commit, stop fighting and learn how to gently nudge him in the right direction.
Stop thinking of commitment as a destination and start thinking of it as a process that takes time and patience to unfold. Commitment is built on trust, and it’s never a good idea to blindly surrender your trust. Both must work to gain each other’s trust by allowing themselves to be vulnerable with each other little by little.
As you work to build more and more trust, learn to communicate honestly about your expectations for the future. If a man ignores you or completely avoids talking about the future, he tries a slightly different approach. Share with him some of his general fears about commitment. Revealing your uncertainty gives him permission to do the same without fear of upsetting you. You both may share some of the same concerns. And obstacles are much easier to overcome when they have been clearly identified. A man may find that just verbalizing his concerns takes power.
Keep certain aspects of yourself exclusively for a committed relationship. The obvious one is sex. But there are other things you should keep until a man commits. Dating other men is always an option until he tells you that he is ready for a commitment. Knowing that you are dating other guys or have the opportunity to date other guys will drive him crazy. He, too, must reserve the benefits of cohabitation for commitment. There’s no reason you should get used to doing his laundry, cleaning up after him, or doing his wanderings for him. You’re not his mother or his maid, so don’t act like either of them. You can do these things once in a while as a nice gesture, but it shouldn’t happen often or he’ll take you for granted.