One of the tools in getting a woman to bed is giving her a “statement of intent.” This is like a statement of readiness. You prepare her for the escalation of things on a sexual level. That way, she already knows what to try later.
Statements of intent work because they don’t give you anything to object to at this point. It’s not like saying “I’m about to kiss you” and then kissing her. The idea is to set the frame passively by saying that you are going to scale things and that it is up to her if it is okay or not.
Here are some good statements of intent:
“You’re so sexy.”
“I know it’s a little early, but you’re so hot.”
“I know I shouldn’t say this, but I’m totally imagining kissing you right now.”
“I’m very attracted to you. I’m sorry if that’s inappropriate, but I blurted it out.”
These are things that tell him exactly what your intentions are. She knows what you are going to do and will not be surprised when you do it. You have plenty of time to think about it and accept it before it happens. She knows you don’t want her as a friend, shopping buddy, clubmate, or a shoulder to cry on. It is clear that you love her like a man loves a woman.
When doing this, it is important to tell her that she is sexy, that you like her, that you want to wear your pants, that you want to kiss her, that you are attracted to her, etc. It’s good to stick with something like “Sorry, I know it’s early” or “Not appropriate.” This makes it appear that you are not doing it intentionally; it just came out. That will convey any questions you have about it.
It is also good to put a little humor in it. You don’t want to be a total clown because you want her to know that you really mean it, but you can use some of that fuzzy humor later, like “Sorry, I’m an idiot.” Or do some kind of no sequitur to soften the blow and stop thinking about it. The point is that it is a clear statement of intent, but also that it is not threatening.
If you can manage the statement of intent from the beginning, you will set the stage for what is to come next. This is really important in how to get women to bed because it makes her think about it and accept it before the time comes.