I don’t know how you celebrate the Christmas holidays, but I celebrate it by dancing. My boyfriend (who I also call my Stedman, like Oprah) and I took a friend who had accompanied “Stedman” from Eastern Europe to our favorite “African music” hideaway.
When we arrived, the crowded little stage was filled with gleaming bodies, of all races and colors, spinning rhythmically and wildly. I was dancing when I realized that our friend from Eastern Europe was not dancing, but just standing there, dumbfounded. I followed her eyes to see what had her looking like a submerged statue. That’s when I noticed him too. It seems that all eyes of him, both male and female, were fixed on one particular guy who was spinning so fast and so powerfully that, for a moment, you might have thought he might have been battery powered. My friend leaned in and excitedly whispered in my ear, “If he can work like that on stage, I wonder what he can do in the bedroom?”
I smiled and whispered, “It’s not called sexual energy for nothing.”
But my friend is how it made me think. Our generation right now is obsessed with looking sexy, feeling sexy, and of course delivering “power performances” in the bedroom. We spend a lot of money on plastic surgery, designer clothes, and the gym. We also spend a lot of time reading sex manuals, mastering seduction techniques, and porn treasure hunts. But ironically, we’re not looking for anything “sexier,” just more plastic. We’re not getting more “sexually charismatic,” just more manipulative. Our bedroom performances are not “getting better” but more mechanical. And our lives are not getting “happier” but emptier.
This is what I know. Today’s modern man and woman have yet to understand that sexual energy is the essence of sexual charisma and not all the other superficial and manipulative mechanical things. By simply giving yourself permission to generate enough sexual energy without being embarrassed, embarrassed, or consumed by it, you can have sexual charisma that is still beyond your wildest imagination.
While we may not have much control over the type of body, nose, lips, eye color, or height passed down to us by genetics, we can learn to charge our entire bodies with sexual energy and achieve the same (or even higher) level. sexual attractiveness as those who got it (figuratively and literally) from genes.
Try to give yourself permission to generate “pure sexual energy” one that is not attached to or distracted by a judgmental mindset, inhibitions, neediness, insecurities, anger, simmering resentments, emotional wounds, memories of painful humiliation, confusion, jealousy, fears of inadequacy, rejection or failure, mistrust, control and conflict, doubts, confusion and shame, and watch how people suddenly notice you in a different way.