So he dumped you… but your phone keeps ringing. For some reason or another, your ex girlfriend is still texting you, even after the breakup. But how can you tell if she misses you or if she is just making friendly contact?
Alright, let’s start by clearing up a very common misconception: your ex-girlfriend It is not I want to be your friend. Despite what other people may tell you, the “friends with your ex” scenario is nothing more than a temporary fantasy. It is doomed to fail and it is also a cover-up for your ex’s true feelings. So if you think friendly communication might be the case. It is not.
Top Reasons Your Ex Will Still Text You
If your ex girlfriend keeps texting you after the end of your relationship, one thing is for sure: she’s not over you yet. Although she may not be ready to jump back into your arms right now, your ex is reaching out to you because he doesn’t want you to go anywhere (or see anyone else).
After the breakup, texting is a more cowardly form of contact. It’s what your girlfriend will do when she’s not sure what to say to you. It’s also her way of letting off steam without getting into a long, drawn out (and possibly awkward) conversation with you. By texting you, your ex girlfriend has the floor…as well as the last word.
However, in the same way, your ex may also use texting as a form of control. Under the guise of innocent small talk, your ex girlfriend may be aware of where you are and what you are doing. The “I’m just being friendly” excuse is just a smokescreen for what’s really going on: Your ex-girlfriend is exploring the boundaries of singleness while she’s trying to maintain positive communication with you.
What should you do when your ex girlfriend texts you?
Well, first of all, are you looking to get your ex back? If so, the fact that he is texting you is very good news. It shows that he still has residual feelings and unresolved emotional ties with you. Even after breaking up with you, there is a part of your ex’s psyche that just won’t let go of your previous relationship. To keep that ember burning, your ex will maintain some type of contact based on text messages or via email.
In reality, though, answering your ex’s texts is probably the worst thing you can do. The more you go back and forth with these little electronic notes, the harder it will be to get your ex back. The reason for this is simple: you are not giving your girlfriend a chance to MISS YOU. Since you’re always within arm’s reach of her, she gets all the benefits of being single… but without the drawbacks of wondering if you yourself have moved on without her or not.
As much as you still love your ex and want her back, imagine ignoring her text messages for a bit. Try to imagine how bewildered she will be when she doesn’t respond to you or acknowledge the fact that she is communicating with you. The more you retire here, the more your ex girlfriend will need from you. This applies to any form of contact, but is especially true of text messages.
Looking to reverse your breakup and get back together with your ex? Don’t sit idly by waiting for him to come back. Instead, you need to be proactive about getting back together. There are a lot of great things you can do that will very quickly make your ex-girlfriend want you back.